We are all unique individuals. We may grieve in different ways. Some people will be very open and expressive with their grief, while others will be more stoic and internalize their pain.
Both ways are perfectly healthy….as long as each individual is respected in terms of their style of coping and as long as each person finds a way to release their pain.
Some people will release their pain verbally and through tears, others will release their pain through their actions/activity.
Find what works for you!
How Grief Can Manifest….
Tightness in throat
Heaviness in chest
Loss of appetite
Shortness of breath
Lack of organization
Lack of concentration
Lack of initiative
Unexpected and uncontrolled crying
Feelings of relief
Loss of spontaneity
Fear of being alone
Fear of being with people
Tips from One Who is Grieving
*Don’t ignore me because you don’t know what to say. Your silence hurts more than you could know.
*Acknowledge my pain.
*Allow me to have my feelings without feeling the need to try to take them away.
*If you haven’t called, and a long time has gone by, tell me that you are sorry, that you just haven’t known what to say. Don’t say you’ve been too busy.
*Be available to me.
*Realize that I may not always feel like socializing, but please don’t stop asking.
*Use my deceased loved one’s name. It is music to my ears.
*Ask me what I need. The answer will change from day to day.
*Don’t leave it up to me to call you if I need anything. The likelihood is that I won’t call.
*Sit with me in silence.
*Let me cry….Help me laugh….Help me remember…..Help me forget…….Whatever I need….Take my lead.
*Hug me and tell me that you care.
Our bereavement services are available to anyone who has experienced a death, no matter what the relationship or how long ago the death occurred.
We offer individual counseling to adults, teens, and children—-individuals, couples, and families.
We go to schools, churches, organizations, our Community Life Centers, our main office, and family homes to offer education and support. Let us support you!!
For more information about our
Bereavement Services, please call us at 301-791-6360.
747 Northern Avenue
Hagerstown, MD 21742
Cathy Campbell, LCPC, CT
Manager of Bereavement Services
Bereavement Program Assistant
In addition to providing services from our Northern Avenue office, we also offer bereavement support at our Life Centers:
Hancock Community Life Center
126 West High Street, 2nd Floor
Cathy Hubbard, D. Min., Grief Counselor
Hagerstown Community Life Center
20 West Washington Street, 3rd Floor
Emily Crist, LPC, Grief Counselor
Boonsboro Community Life Center
28 N. Main Street
All services are offered to anyone in the community. To learn more or participate, please call our Bereavement Services Department at 301-791-6360 or click this link – http://hospiceofwc.org/contact-us/for a counselor to contact you.
Hearts of Hope–—Available to any adult who has experienced loss related to a death of a loved one. Offered on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each month from 10:30 am-12:00 and on the 2nd and 4th Thursday of each month from 5:30-7:00 pm. Drop in anytime!
Upcoming Closed Groups—
SOS Survivors of Suicide Group
This group will focus on the many issues that arise when a loved one dies by suicide. We will describe the many emotional, physical, and spiritual responses to it, explore ways to manage the intensity of the pain associated with it, and discuss healthy coping strategies.
Six consecutive Tuesdays, starting Oct. 4, 5:30-7:00 pm HWC Office Northern Avenue
Walking Together Through Grief
This easy-paced walking group offers an opportunity to re-energize, share, listen to, and learn from others who have also experienced the death of a loved one.
This is an adult-only group for all fitness levels. This is not a fitness program, but a means to reflect on the grief journey with others.
Friday mornings 10:00 am-11:00 am
Sept. 2 thru Oct. 28…join in at any time
Participants gather at the Hospice office, 747 Northern Avenue. Please wear appropriate, comfortable clothing. Walks will be at a casual pace with optional lengths of walks to meet everyone’s needs. We will conclude the walk with refreshments and a time to chat. In case of inclement weather, please call the Hospice office for information about possible cancellations.
For more information about this group, or to register, please call the Hospice Bereavement Department at 301-791-6360.
Grief 101—An overview of the grief process: manifestations of grief; how grief is individualized; what helps the griever; what you can do to help someone who is grieving. Open to anyone who has experienced a death or anyone who wants to learn how to be supportive to someone who is grieving. Sept. 28, 2016 5:30-7:00 pm
International Survivors of Suicide Day
You are not alone. Join with a community of suicide loss survivors as we share stories of healing and hope. We will see a video, hold a panel discussion, enjoy a lunch, and have a time of remembrance.
Learn more at SurvivorDay.org
Saturday, November 19, 10:00-2:00 pm HWC Office Northern Avenue
Coping with the Holidays
November 10 and December 5, 2016
5:30 P.M. – 7:00 P.M.
Join us to learn some ways to help cope with the demands of the holidays and ways to best cope with your grief during this holiday season.
Call us in advance to register and reserve your seat for one or both of these sessions.
Letting Go of Guilt
Whether your loss has come in swift and dramatic fashion or after an extended time of waiting, unresolved feelings of anger, frustration, and especially guilt, can prevent us from grieving in healthy ways. Join us for a time to reflect on this type of pain and learn ways to cope and transform it.
Oct. 17, 2016 5:30-7:00 pm
Other types of grief support—
Healing Hearts – 6-week, closed-ended support group, for specific populations (Loss of Spouse/Survivors of Suicide/Overdose Loss). Offered for 6 consecutive evenings, rotated throughout the year, 5:30-7:00 pm.
Other WorkshopTopics—Educational workshops on topics related to the grief process. *Sudden & Traumatic Loss * How Children Grieve *Teen Grief *Honoring Our Mothers * Honoring Our Fathers *Pet Remembrance
Individuals, Couples, & Families Counseling—Face-to-face sessions available by appointment.
Remembrance Service brings together HWC staff and patient families to remember and honor the memory of loved ones who have died during the past year.
Grief Support for Children
HWC Grief Counselors collaborate with School Counselors to support children who are grieving. Children/Teens are given the necessary tools to assist them in identifying their symptoms of grief and helping them to process their emotions, using healthy coping techniques. Services for children can be provided, with parent/guardian permission, in the home or in the school and offered in individual and/or group sessions.
Camp Hope-N-Cope—Grief camp for kids, ages 6-13. Offered one weekend per year.
Camp Hope and Cope is a special camp designed for grieving children who have experienced the death of a loved one, or any permanent loss in their lives. The camp provides a fun, educational and safe environment for children ages 6-13 to talk to one another and to learn effective, practical skills for managing their loss. We are always looking for interested campers and adult volunteers. Volunteers (adults over the age of 18) act as “Big Buddies” to the campers, being a friend and helping them process their emotions. All training needed is provided by HWC Camp staff. For more information, volunteer or camper applications, please contact The Bereavement Department at 301-791-6360.
- Age Specific Group Activities
- Swimming—Hiking –Games
- Professional Story Telling
- Memorial Ceremony
Visit http://hospiceofwc.org/resources/ for helpful handouts and information for adults and children. For referral information, please contact Hospice of Washington County Bereavement Services Department by calling 301-791-6360.