We are all unique individuals. We may grieve in different ways. Some people will be very open and expressive with their grief, while others will be more stoic and internalize their pain. Both ways are perfectly healthy….as long as each individual is respected in terms of their style of coping and as long as each person finds a way to release their pain. Some people will release their pain verbally and through tears, others will release their pain through their actions/activity. Find what works for you!
How Grief Can Manifest…
Physically: Tightness in throat, Heaviness in chest, Loss of appetite, Weakness, Shortness of breath, Sleep disturbances, Headaches
Mentally: Lack of organization, Lack of concentration, Forgetfulness, Lack of initiative, Tension, Anxiety
Emotionally: Anguish, Depression, Unexpected and uncontrolled crying, Mood swings, Feelings of relief
Socially: Anger, Irritability, Loss of spontaneity, Withdrawal, Fear of being alone, Fear of being with people
Tips from One Who is Grieving
*Don’t ignore me because you don’t know what to say. Your silence hurts more than you could know.
*Acknowledge my pain.
*Allow me to have my feelings without feeling the need to try to take them away.
*If you haven’t called, and a long time has gone by, tell me that you are sorry, that you just haven’t known what to say. Don’t say you’ve been too busy.
*Be available to me.
*Realize that I may not always feel like socializing, but please don’t stop asking.
*Use my deceased loved one’s name. It is music to my ears.
*Ask me what I need. The answer will change from day to day.
*Don’t leave it up to me to call you if I need anything. The likelihood is that I won’t call.
*Sit with me in silence.
*Let me cry…Help me laugh…Help me remember…Help me forget…whatever I need…Take my lead.
*Hug me and tell me that you care.
Our bereavement services are available to anyone who has experienced a death, no matter what the relationship or how long ago the death occurred. We offer short term individual counseling to adults, teens, and children—individuals, couples, and families. Grief education and support through one-on-one counseling, support groups, workshops and services.
For more information about our Bereavement Services, please call us at 301-791-6360 or stop by at 747 Northern Avenue Hagerstown, MD 21742
Cathy Campbell, LCPC, CT
Manager of Bereavement Services
All services are offered to anyone in the community. To learn more or participate, please call our Bereavement Services Department at 301-791-6360 or click this link – http://hospiceofwc.org/contact-us/for a counselor to contact you.
Hearts of Hope–Available to any adult who has experienced loss related to a death of a loved one regardless of the relationship, cause of death, or when the death occurred. This group provides a safe place where group members can share their stories and express their grief. Offered on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each month from 10:30 am-12:00 and on the 2nd and 4th Thursday of each month from 5:30-7:00 pm. Drop in anytime!
Teen Grief Group
Life can be difficult enough, but add to that the fact that your teen may be grieving the death of a loved one, and you can see the complexities of teen grief. We are creating a safe place for teens between the ages of 14-18 to come together to share their stories and express their thoughts and emotions.
Held on 6 consecutive Tuesdays, from June 19 to July 24, 2:00-3:30 pm. Please call to reserve your spot!!
Overdose Loss Support Group – Sept. 5-Oct. 10, 5:30-7:00 pm
Experiencing the death of a loved one can be one of the most painful experiences we will ever have to endure. When that loved one dies suddenly and due to an overdose, the pain can become excruciating.
Many mixed feelings may be felt….including the feeling that no one could possibly understand. The harsh reality, though, is that there are others who have a sense of what this pain is like. Won’t you please join us for a time of support, sharing, and education?
Please RSVP to Cathy Campbell at 301-791-6360 x156 to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Cooking for One Workshop – June 27, 5:30-7:00 pm
A meal-planning, recipe-sharing workshop for adults who are grieving and try to incorporate easy, healthy meals into their day.
Camp Hope N Cope – *August 1, 6:00-8:00 pm Parent/Guardian/Camper Meeting
Camp Hope N Cope – *August 8, 5:30-7:30 pm Volunteer Meeting
*All meetings are for those who have submitted applications
Camp Hope N Cope 2018 – August 18, 2018, 8:00 am-9:00 pm
Camp Hope N Cope will be held on August 18 at the Mt. Aetna Retreat Center in Hagerstown. The camp is designed for children between the ages of 6-13 who have experienced the death of a loved one or significant life loss.
The day camp is a time of learning, remembering, healing, sharing, laughter, and love. Both children and adults come away from camp feeling enriched, with a sense of affirmation and belonging, and a sense of community. Throughout the day, children learn coping skills and how to verbalize their feelings. In addition, MANY recreational activities held throughout the day, which makes this a special time of fun and friendship.
To apply, please contact the HWC Bereavement Program at 301-791-6360 to request an application. Applications are due July 27. We ask that Parents/Guardians bring the children who have applied/been accepted to a meeting on August 1 from 6:00-8:00 pm.
Other types of grief support—
Healing Hearts – 6-week, closed-ended support group, for specific populations (Loss of Spouse/Survivors of Suicide/Overdose Loss). Offered for 6 consecutive evenings, rotated throughout the year, 5:30-7:00 pm.
Other WorkshopTopics—Educational workshops on topics related to the grief process. Sudden & Traumatic Loss ~ How Children Grieve ~ Teen Grief ~ Honoring Our Mothers ~ Honoring Our Fathers ~ Pet Remembrance
Individuals, Couples, & Families Counseling—Face-to-face sessions available by appointment.
Remembrance Service brings together HWC staff and patient families to remember and honor the memory of loved ones who have died during the past year.
Grief Support for Children – HWC Grief Counselors collaborate with School Counselors to support children who are grieving. Children/Teens are given the necessary tools to assist them in identifying their symptoms of grief and helping them to process their emotions, using healthy coping techniques. Services for children can be provided, with parent/guardian permission, in the home or in the school and offered in individual and/or group sessions.
Camp Hope and Cope is a special camp designed for grieving children who have experienced the death of a loved one, or any permanent loss in their lives. The camp provides a fun, educational and safe environment for children ages 6-13 to talk to one another and to learn effective, practical skills for managing their loss. Camp activities include: Age Specific Group Activities; Swimming—Hiking –Games; Professional Story Telling; Music; Crafts and a Memorial Ceremony. We are always looking for interested campers and adult volunteers. Volunteers (adults over the age of 18) act as “Big Buddies” to the campers, being a friend and helping them process their emotions. All training needed is provided by HWC Camp staff. For more information, volunteer or camper applications, please contact The Bereavement Department at 301-791-6360.
Visit http://hospiceofwc.org/resources/ for helpful handouts and information for adults and children. For referral information, please contact Hospice of Washington County Bereavement Services Department by calling 301-791-6360.